As our society grapples with the idea of consent through the #metoo movement, it’s becoming ever-more-important in Pagan groups too. The latest scandal rocking segments of the Pagan community are just that – the latest in a string. I’ve been talking about the need for consent culture since Kenny Klein. Others have been talking about it longer than I have. This isn’t a new concept.
What IS new, I think, is that more folks than ever seem open to hearing about it. However, there are still lots of folks who think consent only applies to sexual interactions, and don’t really get how it can apply non-sexually too. Here’s a great example.
With thanks to Caer, who is always there to remind me that my voice deserves to be heard.
In our concern to address the most egregious breaches of consent in Pagan communities, the basis for consent culture is often overlooked. At its heart, consent means that no one can touch you in any way you aren’t expressly ok with. They have to ask for consent; you can give, refuse to give, or revoke that consent at any time; you do not have to offer any kind of justification as to why you don’t want touched by a particular individual under particular circumstances.
Many people don’t realize that this means more than sexual forms of contact. In fact a lot of times, people who are violating boundaries of consent have no idea that’s what they’re doing.
As an example, I’m going to talk about something that happened to me. For awhile…
I’m a big proponent of regular devotional work. Daily, weekly, whenever we feel moved – as far as I’m concerned the timing doesn’t matter so much as long as we do it.
Every time I see devotions talked about in Pagan or polytheistic circles, though, I see a few people swearing by the practice and a metric fuckton of people saying they don’t/can’t/won’t. Why is that, do you think?
I asked about it on my Facebook and got some great feedback, but then I decided I needed a larger sample size. Hence this poll! Please complete it, share it, whatever. If there’s something I missed in the answer selection, or a point you’d like to expand on/clarify, please leave a comment. I really want to know what y’all think!
“If you are like most people, then like most people, you don’t know you’re like most people.” –Daniel Gilbert
You may not realize it, but Caer Jones just wrote the most important post on polytheism you’ll read all year. This is the point at which I pause and urge you in the strongest terms to go read it before continuing with my article. Got it? Alrighty.
These bronze animal figures are from one of the earliest Indo-European cultures, the Hittites.
Jones addresses a lot of important concepts in her article. The first is that most of what we consider modern paganism or polytheism is descended from a culture known as the Proto-Indo-Europeans. You won’t find the Proto-Indo-European nation on a map, nor are there any ancient documents written in their language. As far as we know, they didn’t have writing, and our best conjecture of the language they spoke is…
I’ve blogged about some of these topics before, as have many others, and I’m sure we’ll keep seeing stuff like this until we’re all better able (and more willing) to get out of our own way. Always good to have a reminder!
Recently, I made a little post on Facebook. It read simply:
“Does anyone have a recipe for money drawing oil? Much obliged!”
Hardly headline news, right? I certainly didn’t think it was going to be a request that merited a full-blown blog post. But before I tell you more about what I intended when I wrote those two sentences, why don’t I give you a little tour of the responses?
Some of the people replying to me made a lot of assumptions right off the bat. These included:
The assumption that the money drawing oil was for me, or for a working I was doing on my own behalf, rather than a friend or client.
The assumption that I was not aware that I could purchase the oil already made.
The assumption that I asked about the money drawing oil because I was currently in financial difficulty.
So, updates! I’ve been diving into studies of proto-Indo-European everything of late, and my studies in that area are leading to some really fascinating clarifications/expansions/outright changes to my practice.
One of the most interesting updates – to me, anyway! – is how it’s changed my approach to the Wheel of the Year. My Wheel has always been extremely individualized, and some of that’s still there, but studying PIE stuff has also shown me that I wasn’t nearly as off from PIE practice as I thought I was! I just filter it through a more modern perspective, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. If you’re interested in checking out where that’s at now, pop on over to The Wheel of the Year and take a look-see! I expect some further changes to it as I go, but that’s then.
Also in that vein, I am officially working on the Dedicant Path for the ADF, with proto-Indo-European as my hearth culture focus. Expect lots of similar updates and realizations over the next little bit! I for one am super excited about it.
I hope that y’all will join me on this new journey in my life. It’s been a long time coming.
I’ve been inspired by Stevie Miller over at Grundsau Burrow. She’s been holding regular formal prayer rituals of late and I think that’s a damn fine idea. I’m hopping on the bandwagon and joining in. In these trying times we need all the help we can get!
That being so, when better than the coming solar eclipse? I’ll be continuing this practice on every new moon for the foreseeable future, but this seems like a great time to start!
This is an open call for prayers to be ritually made on your behalf on August 21st. If you would like to participate, please let me know your name and what you’re praying for so I can add you to the list and do the prep work. You can comment here, tag me on Facebook, PM me, email me, whatever makes you comfy. And feel free to share! I’m taking the whole day off to make this happen, so let’s get it rolling!
I will stop accepting prayer requests at 5:30a EST, August 21st.
*Note: I reserve the right to refuse prayers for anything I find ethically dodgy. Thank you for your understanding.
Oh, this is just too clever. I had to share! Estara T’shirai over at Caw, Motherfsckers is currently doing a series of posts where the Court cards go on blind dates with each other. How well do the Page of Cups and Queen of Swords click?
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What a great way to get more familiar with Court card personalities! I highly recommend heading over and checking these posts out. They’re quick reads. And when you’re done, maybe try doing a few of these yourself!